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Is it time to quit? Well, in this video, I’m going to give you
five reasons why you should stay and five reasons why you should leave.
If you don’t know who I am, my name is Alex Nffyajan.
I’m the founder of Worship Ministry Training,
an online platform that has helped thousands of worship leaders all over
the globe build healthy, organised, and excellent worship ministries.
And I’ve also left three churches in my ministry career.
So I have quit. I’ve been through the process,
and I know the wrong reasons to quit and the right reasons to quit.
And we’re going to get into that right now.
Did you know the average worship leader
only stays at their church for two years before quitting?
Because ministry is hard. Leave a comment if you can relate.
It’s tireless, it’s thankless, it’s discouraging at times.
We can be misunderstood, misrepresented,
underappreciated, and even taken advantage of.
But that shouldn’t surprise us because
even Jesus was misunderstood, mistreated, and ultimately betrayed.
We follow a crucified saviour,
and so following him will likely lead us to a cross of our own.
Still, the spiritual, emotional, and physical pressures that we face
in ministry can often lead us to think about quitting.
Quitting a role that God has called us
to is not something that you and I should take lightly.
If God called us to a position,
we should seek to be faithful until he clearly calls us to something else.
That’s why the apostle Paul says, Be steadfast, immovable,
always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labour is not in vain.
But does being steadfast and immovable
mean that we have to stay at our church forever?
It just means don’t quit when it gets hard.
There will always challenging seasons in ministry.
Ploughing a field is hard, yet harvest won’t come unless we plough.
Working out is hard, yet physical strength does not come apart from it.
Difficult seasons often lead to our most fruitful seasons and abundant seasons.
Pruning always leads to more fruit.
You’re probably in a season right now where things don’t feel good,
but maybe God is preparing your character to use you mightily in the near future.
That’s why you should not grow weary in doing good, for in due season,
you will reap a harvest of righteousness if you do not God, give up.
How can we know when we’re supposed
to press in and persevere or when it’s time for us to move on?
Let me offer you five points
of consideration for each of those scenarios to discern whether you should
quit or stay in your current ministry position.
All right, you shouldn’t consider quitting if you’re tired.
Did you know most senior pastors quit on Mondays?
Why? Because they’re tired, they’re exhausted,
they’re beat up, they’re poured out, they’re depleted.
Everything looks worse when you’re tired.
You just don’t have the energy to put up another fight.
Don’t quit when you’re tired.
You might just need a vacation or an extra few days off.
So get away, get some rest,
and see if things look differently once you’ve had a little rest and relaxation.
Number two, don’t quit because you think the grass is greener somewhere else.
If you think ministry will be easier somewhere else, it won’t.
You’ll just be trading one set of problems for another.
Where there are people, there are problems.
And guess what? You’re a person, too, and so am I.
So wherever you go,
you will bring your own problems with you and make the situation worse.
There are no perfect churches.
The truth is, the grass is not greener somewhere else.
The grass is greener where you watered it.
So instead of running away from your
problems, try to solve them or improve them right where God has you right now.
Imagine how much better your ministry would be if you actively worked on solving
the issues you’re facing right now instead of running away from them.
Work for the next 12 months on improving the areas that are bothering you,
and you’ll find that the grass is greener where you water it.
Number three, don’t quit if you haven’t attempted to resolve conflict.
There will always be conflict in the church.
There will always be conflict in our lives.
Don’t run away from conflict without first seriously attempting to resolve it.
Yes, it’s yucky. Yes, you’d like to avoid it,
but maybe God’s trying to work something in you through this conflict,
or maybe he’s trying to work something in the other person through this conflict.
If you avoid it, both of you lose out.
Don’t leave a ministry just because you’re
too uncomfortable to have a hard conversation.
Both you and the person will be missing
out on God’s redemptive work in your lives.
Number four, don’t quit if you can’t move on without bitterness.
This one’s hard, but I want to encourage
you, don’t leave your church until you can leave from a place of health.
If you’re hurt, angry, bitter, spiteful, upset, you should never leave until you
let God heal you from those toxic emotions.
You should work through your sinful emotions to get to a place of health.
If you leave in bitterness and hurt, you’re only going to carry that into your
next ministry assignment, and that is not good.
It will affect your future relationships.
It’ll affect how you view people.
It’ll shut you off from being open and available to how God wants to use you.
So instead of leaving while you’re hurt,
entrust yourself to God and work hard at forgiving the people who hurt you so
that when you do leave, you don’t leave from a place of weakness
and bitterness, but you leave from a place of strength.
Number five, don’t quit if God hasn’t clearly called you to something new.
You shouldn’t leave your church just because you’re tired of being there.
If God hasn’t given you a new assignment,
stay faithful to the one that he last gave you.
That doesn’t mean you can’t start searching for other opportunities.
On the contrary, go ahead and see what else is out there.
But until God opens a door for you,
stay faithful and fully bought in to where he planted you for now.
When he’s ready, he can change everything in an instant.
Until he does, stay steadfast and movable,
always abounding in the work of the Lord until he gives you your clear next step.
Now, if you’ve processed through all five of those considerations with me,
and ideally talked through it with some people that know you and love you,
and you’re still not sure if you should stay or quit.
Now, let me give you five reasons why you
should quit your current ministry position.
Before I give you the first one,
I created a quitting checklist that will help you think through your current
situation and assess whether or not you should leave your church.
If you to get that quitting checklist assessment, click right below this video.
There’s a link there and it’ll be labelled correctly.
Hope it helps you think through your situation.
The first reason why you should quit your
church is that you cannot support your senior pastor’s vision.
Whether you like it or not, God called your senior pastor to be
the senior pastor and the primary leader of your church.
If you can’t work enthusiastically
to support his vision, then perhaps it’s time for you to leave.
There should be no division in the body
of Christ, and the word division A decision means two visions.
If you and your pastor don’t see eye
to eye and can’t work arm and arm, then it may be time for you to leave.
That doesn’t mean you have to agree with every decision your pastor makes,
but you do have to support every decision he makes.
If you are fighting against them or
disagreeing with them constantly, then perhaps it’s time for you to go.
This will make space for them to hire
someone who can joyfully support your senior pastor.
Number two, you should think about
quitting if you’ve made multiple attempts to resolve conflict without success.
As we’ve said, conflict is inevitable.
But if you’ve humbly, kindly, lovingly,
and patiently attempted to resolve long-standing issues multiple times
without success, it might be time for you to move on.
Jesus said we should forgive our brother
70 times seven, but he also told his disciples if people
were unwilling to change, to shake the dust off their feet and walk away.
Paul says, Have nothing to do with a divisive person.
Paul also says, As far as it depends upon you, live peaceably with all people.
But if the other party refuses to live
peaceably with you, then it be time for you to go.
Just be sure you give a fair amount
of chances and continue to forgive as Christ in God has forgiven us.
But if the conflict continues to go
on and on, it may be time for you to serve somewhere else.
Number three, you can consider quitting if you are in a toxic or abusive environment.
But are you constantly being disrespected,
belittled, berated, yelled at, overworked, underappreciated, underpaid?
If your request for appreciation and fair compensation are being disregarded,
dismissed, and scoffed at, and you’re not being treated with respect,
appreciation, and fairness, then it might be time for you to step out.
Now, remember what we said in the previous
section to not leave from a place of bitterness.
So make sure you first work through the wounds and do everything you can
to reconcile and to be healed and to forgive before you step out.
You want to step out not wounded, but from a place of strength.
Try to genuinely appreciate the people
and experiences you had at your church before you leave that type of environment.
Number four, you should consider quitting if God has opened a new door for you.
If God has presented a new opportunity for you that you feel excited about
and called to, it might be a sign for you to quit your current position.
Often in my life,
God leads through circumstances, and if a door is opening to you,
it might be that God wants you to walk through that.
Usually, these opportunities are a good match for your gifting, your calling,
your passion, your life or family circumstances,
and also your philosophy of ministry, meaning how you approach ministry.
If God has opened a new door to you that you’re excited about,
and if it’s safe for you to do this, bring your current leadership
into the loop and ask them to pray with you about this opportunity so
that they can support you as you step into something new.
The number five reason to consider quitting your church is if your spouse,
family, and friends, the people who know you best, agree with your assessment.
It might be time to quit if all the people who know you and love you agree
that the current situation for you is no longer healthy.
Proverbs 11:14 says, Where there is no guidance,
a people falls, but in the abundance of counsellors, there is safety.
If you have a spouse, be sure that they 100% are in agreement
with you before you make any major decisions.
You are in fact, one flesh.
And so if God speaks to one of you,
then he’s also going to speak to the other as well.
And so if everyone is seeing what you’re
seeing, and they’re saying what you are saying, and they’re sensing what you are
sensing, then it might be a sign that it’s time for you to step out and move on.
Before we end this video, if you wish you had a group of peers
who could help you process through some of these decisions,
we have a free community in the Worship Ministry Training Academy.
You could just sign in using the link
below, and that way you’ll have a group of peers who can help you process through
some some of these things that you’re thinking.
This is a very common topic in the academy.
People are always sharing their thoughts
and comments and prayers and opinions based on what you post.
If you’d like some peer support,
check out the free community portion of the Worship Minister Training Academy.
The link is below this video.
Most of all, fast and pray because the Book of James says,
If anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask God who will give it to you generously.
God wants you to know his will, so ask, seek, knock, and he will show you the way.
I pray that this video helped you.
Check out whatever YouTube is recommending to you next.
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God bless you. See you in the next video.